Alexia Leachman.

The founding story

Why this exists.

It started with a pregnancy.

In 2009, I was pregnant for the first time and discovered I had massive fears around pregnancy and birth — bigger than anyone around me seemed to think were normal. I was already in a difficult place: depression, anxiety, hard grief from losing my mother suddenly to cancer. The pregnancy fears layered on top of all of that.

The fears were so strong that I was relieved when I miscarried. I later discovered there's a name for what I had — tokophobia, the extreme fear of pregnancy and birth — but at the time I just thought I was completely broken.

On Dr David R Hawkins's Map of Consciousness, I was measuring 173. (I didn't know it at the time — I retrospectively mapped my number when I discovered his work in 2021.)

What changed it wasn't therapy. The level of therapy I imagined I'd need wasn't something I could afford — and as it turns out, therapy probably would've done jack shit anyway. What changed it was a lunch.

Developing the method

Two years building it with Chris. Sixteen developing it since.

A few weeks after the training, Chris approached me. He'd seen how I was talking about the work and offering it to my clients — and he said: let's work together on this.

We worked together for two years. I helped him take Reflective Repatterning from a brilliantly intuitive but structurally lacking method into something that could be taught at a consistent level. We co-developed the advanced training. Built repeatable frameworks. I wrote the manuals. We ran trainings together. Recorded podcast episodes. Started building it into a real methodology.

Chris is one of the most genuinely gifted healers I've ever met. He's also a free spirit. The systematising work — making the trainings consistent, making the manual reliable, making the experience repeatable — clashed with his deepest value: freedom. He didn't want to be pinned down. But without that work, the method couldn't grow.

Then Chris became seriously ill, and he needed to focus on himself. Which he did.

But during that time, he made a decision. He posted publicly on Facebook that he was handing the work over. He gave Reflective Repatterning to me, and to the world. Anyone could take it and do whatever they wanted with it. He trusted me to take it forward. To be its guardian.

I knew immediately I needed to rename it. People associated Reflective Repatterning with Chris — and rightly so. To take it forward as my own development of the work, with my own additions and refinements and structure, I needed a clean name. So I did what any self-respecting marketer does: I gave it a name that does what it says on the tin.

I'm not the creator of the seed of this method — that was Chris Millbank. I'm the architect of what it became.

For sixteen years since the handover, I've continued developing it. The wound healing layer. The Absolute Healing process. The six-dimension framework. The Ladder of Growth as the measurement layer. The training pathway. The Clearance Club. The four books. The ecosystem.

Some of that came from refining what Chris originally taught. Most of it came from sixteen years of clinical practice — hundreds of 1:1 cases that taught me what worked, what didn't, and how to structure the work to get maximum results in less time. Efficiency is my middle name — I can't help myself.

The method as it exists today is a long way from the version I learned in that room in Coventry. But the seed is still there. And the lineage matters.