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The event that hit you is the arrow. The wound is the gash, the infection, the limp you've been compensating around for decades. Healing means going after the wound — at every layer it's stored, including the layers you didn't know were there.
The Head Trash viewpoint
Most healing approaches go for the arrow. The event. The thing that happened. They re-tell the story, examine the cause, look for the moment things went wrong. That work has its place — but it doesn't clear the wound, because the wound isn't the event.
The wound is the gash, the infection, the way you walk now to compensate. Two people can be hit by the same arrow and only one of them carries a wound from it — because the wound is in how your system responded, not in what happened.
Where wounds actually live
Wounds are multi-layered, often pre-verbal, sometimes inherited. The information about the wound has landed in more places than most people appreciate. We look at all of them — every place that information has lodged in your nervous system — and clear it everywhere it lives.
That's the whole frame. The wound isn't your fault. It isn't your identity. It isn't a thing you have to live with forever. Once you understand where wounds actually live — and how to clear them at every layer — the architecture starts to dismantle. The articles below go deeper. The complete guide is the place to start.
The definitive guide. What a childhood wound actually is (multi-layered, often pre-verbal, sometimes inherited), where it lives in the body and the nervous system, why "the event" isn't the wound, and what root-level clearing looks like. If you only read one thing on this hub, read this.
Read the full guide →Resolve it
Reading is a start. If you're ready to clear the wound at every layer it's stored, here's where the work actually happens.
The single-wound kits
Twelve single-wound healing kits — one for each universal wound. Each kit is a structured micro-programme with audio, journal, video and PDF. £45 each, instant access.
The flagship programme
The full programme. Ten core childhood wounds, 111 supporting healings, video masterclasses, journal, healing community. Over two years' worth of deep healing material — for life.
For glass children
If you grew up with a disabled, chronically ill, or high-needs sibling and learned to disappear, this therapeutic programme is for you. Six wound clusters, 26 sessions, lifetime access.
1:1 with Alexia
The wounds you don't know are there — pre-verbal, ancestral, in-utero. The deepest layer of the work, delivered 1:1 with Alexia using the Absolute Healing Process to clear what your system has been carrying without you knowing.
From the blog
Every article in the wounds cluster, newest first. Click any post to read the full piece.
By Alexia Leachman, creator of the Head Trash Clearance Method. The five core emotional wounds (abandonment, rejection, humiliation, injustice and…
Read →Trauma vs PTSD is one of those distinctions that gets blurred in everyday conversation. People say “I have trauma from that” when they mean an…
Read →The four trauma responses are fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. They’re the nervous system’s automatic survival strategies – the default moves your…
Read →You don’t think trauma belongs in a conversation about your job, your business, your professional life. The unhealed bits feel like they belong in…
Read →Complex trauma is what gets named when no single event explains the damage. Standard PTSD has a moment you can point to. Complex trauma doesn’t –…
Read →Some women reject their feminine to stay safe. For most of my adult life, I was one of them. People called me an alpha female and I took it as a…
Read →Most of us were taught that trauma is a mind problem. Something happened, you remember it, the memory is the problem, talk about the memory until it…
Read →You know something’s running underneath your life. The anxiety, the self-sabotage, the patterns that don’t make sense even to you. You’ve read enough…
Read →Have you ever wondered why so many of us still walk around carrying unhealed trauma, despite the abundance of trauma therapy methods now available?…
Read →So. What is trauma? Most people answer that question with a list of Big Scary Events. War. Assault. Accidents. Bereavement. The kind of events you’d…
Read →This is a case study in untouchable wound healing – what’s possible when an ancestral caste wound carried across generations is finally healed at its…
Read →This case study documents what deep wound healing looks like when a client commits to the work. Hanna started at 319 on the Hawkins scale. Five…
Read →This is a case study in mother wound healing – what’s possible when the shame you’ve been carrying isn’t even yours, and you finally heal it at the…
Read →Kindness is supposed to be simple. Be kind. Be nice. Be generous. We’re told it’s a universal good, and questioning it feels almost heretical. BUT……
Read →There are children who shout to be heard. And there are children who learn not to speak at all. If you grew up with a disabled, chronically ill, or…
Read →You overhear your friend talking about you to someone else. You find a message on a phone that wasn’t meant for you. Someone you trusted with…
Read →You’ve got four tubes of toothpaste in the cupboard. Three packs of butter in the fridge. Pasta enough for a small siege. There’s a 24-hour shop two…
Read →You’re three years into running a mental tab on something somebody did or didn’t do. The other person has long since moved on. They might not even…
Read →One of the most common things I hear from people is some version of: “I’ve always been like this.” They say it about anxiety. About relationships.…
Read →You sit down. The house is reasonably tidy. Nobody’s in crisis. Nothing is actually wrong. And yet there it is. That low-grade hum that says you…
Read →You feel eyes on you, even when there’s no one in the room. You don’t actually need other people to judge you. You do that yourself just fine. You…
Read →You had a fine childhood. Nothing dramatic happened to you. No abuse. No accidents. No deaths in the family that you couldn’t process. By any…
Read →Most people, when they first hear about the humiliation wound, dismiss it on the spot. Not me. I had a fine childhood. I’ve never really been…
Read →Someone says they’ll be there at 8. They’re a bit late. By the time they walk in apologising at 8:25, you’ve already written them off in your head,…
Read →You were the easy one. The good one. The one who didn’t need much. You learned early that your needs shouldn’t be too loud, too inconvenient, too…
Read →You get an email. Or a text. Or a look across the room. And before you can even register what happened, your stomach has dropped through the floor…
Read →The grandparent who raised you. The dog who was your whole heart. The pregnancy that didn’t make it. The friendship that quietly fell apart. The…
Read →You’ve worked on yourself. Read the books. Done the therapy, or the coaching, or both. Maybe tried the breathwork, the meditation, the journalling.…
Read →You start things and don’t finish them. You smother the people you love because you can’t bear the thought of losing them. Then push them away when…
Read →Clear it at every layer
The compensations, the triggers, the reactions you can't logic your way out of — they're downstream of the wound. Clear the wound at every layer it lives, and the architecture they were built on stops holding them up.
